What’s Her Secret? Surviving Motherhood Like Beyoncé
I’m no celebrity mom, nor am I a wannabe. I can barely hold it together when nobody is watching. The thought of 24/7 public scrutiny makes me sweat.
Celebrities fascinate me, though. I read that Khloe Kardashian can’t wait to hit the gym after giving birth and I’m academically intrigued. I can’t say I’ve ever been that excited about sweating by choice.
It seems we all love a superstar mom, as long as she doesn’t look like a mom. We expect hot post-baby bods two to four weeks after they give birth, and we buy up every magazine that promises to reveal their secrets.
Last year, Beyoncé sent Instagram (and her husband) into a drooling frenzy with a selfie slideshow wearing a skimpy, skin-tight red dress just two months after having her twins. Meanwhile, I’ve never had twins and it still took me 18 months to lose the baby weight after my second.
If you’re like me, these celebrity moms seem like they’re from another planet — their lives are out of this world. They have nothing in common with us average Janes – or do they?
If one is to believe what they read on the Internet, Beyoncé and other celebrity moms might have different resources than the rest of us but we’re all trying to survive this chaotic time of life without losing our sanity.
Here are a few survival secrets I’ve learned from the ultimate celebrity survivor, Beyoncé:
It takes a team
Motherhood is not a solo sport. Beyoncé hired two nannies when her daughter, Blue Ivy, was born and another six when the twins arrived. The rest of us might not need round-the-clock nannies but we still need help, and we shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for it. If you need help in this area, check out my free offer down below.
Love your body
Even when the scale returns to its pre-baby reading, our bodies rarely look the same. Things shift, drop and soften. But Bey doesn’t let that get her down. After Blue Ivy’s first birthday, the superstar told Vogue, “I just feel my body means something completely different. I feel a lot more confident about it.” We could all learn a lot from viewing our bodies from this perspective, couldn’t we?
Beyoncé just about broke the internet when she was spotted shopping in Target with her daughter. They probably ran in to get just one thing and walked out with an overflowing cart. But even celebrities know there is no other place to go when you need to wrap a quick outfit, some toys and a toothbrush. That reminds me that there is no shame to choosing convenience. Whether it’s a big-box store, frozen food or grocery delivery, it’s OK when moms choose the path of least resistance in running their households.
Shopping at Target might not make me famous like Beyoncé, but it’s helped me to realize that we’re not as different as it seems. All moms – regardless of wealth or status – are just trying to survive as best as we can. Beyoncé’s mothering journey has shown me that there is power in embracing what I see in the mirror and accepting help when I need it. How about you? What tips do you have for surviving motherhood? What is your secret weapon?
Share your secrets in the comments or by email, and we’ll all survive this journey together.
Tonya Kubo is a full-time working mom of two spirited girls and counts her husband, Brian, as Team Kubo’s MVP. For tips on how draft your own team, download her guide, “Why You Need a Mommy Dream Team.” When she’s not managing the Clutter-Free Academy Facebook group, she writes about overcoming comparison, clutter and compulsion at www.tonyakubo.com.