What do your thoughts “speak” to you about who you are? Does your inner dialogue create roadblocks for your journey?
For years I had this internal voice that seemed to “disqualify” new endeavors. Graduating college, obtaining my Masters’ Degree, great job, great friends did not seem to overpower the feeling of the dark shadow in the corner waiting until I messed it all up. When I was pregnant with my son, due a whole different story for another day, we decided I would leave my job and stay at home with him. It was a great decision.
Great decisions do not always follow the feeling of greatness. Emotions are not an indicator of a good plan. That dark shadow can be in the background looking to invalid even the best laid plans.
What does your inner voice echo in your ear?
I will never be good enough….pretty enough….fit enough…smart enough…
Enough.
You are ENOUGH!
Has your voice prevented you from picking your ONE THING for this 30 journey? Remember it is a journey. Finding the daily changes and adjustments to make a good habit replace the unhealthy one. It is not a goal of perfection. I hope we all learn along the way what can help us to change our perspective on our ONE THING.
If you are stuck by the inner voice in your ear….let’s make that our 30 journey. Here are some beginning steps to quiet the voice.
Write down the opposite of what your voice tells you.
For example, if you feel disqualified, unfit, unworthy, have a trusted friend or spouse help you find the opposite that fits what truly represents YOU. I AM QUALIFIED. I AM ENOUGH. I AM BEAUTIFUL.
Go do this now. Do not wait. It is not a well-I-will-think-about-it task. It is do it now, whatever first comes to mind when you started ready – write that down. NOW.
Pick a mirror or other glass door in your house that you pass by every day.
Write down your new phrase on your mirror. So many places have window markers. Kids love this part. It is never too early to start this with your kids, especially daughters. I use Crayola Markers. You can get them here.
Speak your truth every day for the next 30 days.
Each day, as you pass the mirror or door, speak your truth out loud. This is an important part. If you get your kids involved they will not let you forget. Say it loud. Say it even when you do not feel like it is the truth. Do it without judgement, thought, or rationalization. We do not have to wait until we attain perfection. Our truth is now. Our story is valid. You are enough!
So now you know your ONE THING. Go to it. Enlist a friend or a spouse if you really are stuck on your truth phrase. As we take this journey together over the next 30 days, you may not believe it now. You do not need to believe it to say it. Just say it every day.
Share your pictures of what you write on your mirror if you are comfortable sharing. I have posted several on our Facebook and Instagram for you to see.
The journey begins.
Love this. Speaking positivity into existence and you will see a difference!
Oh gosh. I have the worst inner voice. This was such a great post for me to read. Love it … Thank you so much for the confidence boost.
This is so well written and filled with truth! Thanks for sharing!
I love this so much! Just like anything else you want to be a habit, you have some awesome tips!
These are great tips. Thank you so much for this information. That is so helpful.
Omg! This is true. What you say to yourself is so important and it has to be uplifting to your life.
All great ideas and I definitely needed this. Going to write down some things now..the mirror idea is especially awesome.
Wow, this has motivated me to improve. I ill try these tips and become a better version of myself!
Aw I really love this. This is so important for everyone to love and appreciate themselves. Sometimes I’ll catch myself having negative inner thoughts and I have to check myself to be better. This is really great.
This is so true! Our inner voice can make and break our relationship, perception, and life. It’s so important to keep check on our thoughts 🙂
It took Postnatal depression for me to work on Positive thinking and thinking positive affirmations. I can’t begin to tell you how my life has changed.
This is true. It’s something we need to control as it affects us everyday.
I am working so hard on this!!
Beautiful post. I’m so guilty of being my worst critic, especially now that I’m job hunting. Thank you for this.
I struggle with a negative inner voice and will definitely be trying your mirror technique.
I love the idea of having someone who you can have as an accountability partner. Great tips overall.
I love your writing style. So good, speaks to the soul. I am totally doing this 30 day challenge and inviting my ladies to join me.
This is so true we ourselves are our worst enemies. Thanks for sharing ideas on how to change this behavior and train of thought
THIS !! I think too often we just give into our internalized negative feelings and thoughts as it’s easier than fighting them. But it definitely pays of to think positive!! Thank you for this lovely article. You have such a beautiful and flowing writing style 🙂 xxxx ww.thevolcanicveins.com
i love this empowering piece! making the change within can transpire to changes in the world.
I am my worst critic so I really resonated with this post, thank you!
GREAT advice, especially “Write down the opposite of what your voice tells you.” Thanks, I needed to read this 🙂
Love this!! This is so motivational because it’s true how we’re harder on ourselves.